She guards a secret - Mom is "sick in the head."
In an era when speaking of mental illness was taboo, Linda learns from an early age not to talk about her mother's bizarre behavior. Now her mother's escape from a would-be killer threatens to expose the family secret. They are not a normal family.
Finally, after her mother's extended stays in mental institutions, Linda accepts that her Mom will never be normal. That, she assumes, makes her abnormal as well. She wrestles against her father's abuse and constant shaming of her and her faith and wonders if she will ever feel normal in an abnormal family. Did God make a mistake? Why is she in a home where she doesn't feel loved or accepted? Is there a way for her to break away from the shame that holds her captive?
An Illusion of Normal is the riveting and award winning memoir of the life of a child whose mother suffers from paranoid schizophrenia. At times shocking and heartbreaking, her story exposes the darkness in a home tormented by a parent's mental illness and the light that shows the way out. An inspirational story for anyone to overcome difficult circumstances.
As a judge, I once signed a final judgment for a man who waited twenty-six years after he separated from his wife to finalize his divorce.
“Why did you wait so long?” I asked.
The seventy-eight year old man shrugged. “I just couldn’t figure out how to get her served.”
You may relate to that story if you’re going through a divorce and wondering if there is light at the end of the tunnel. Legal issues appear magnified when you combine them with the emotional and financial roller coaster usually experienced in a divorce.
What is stopping you? Are you trying to figure out what step to take next? Are you frustrated by how to pay your household bills at the same time you’re dealing with escalating attorney’s fees? In either case, this book is for you.
Divorce Made Simple is an easy-to-read guide to help you navigate the legal process and protect you and your children. Courts are ill-equipped to protect those who use the courts as a way to resolve their personal and family issues. Unfortunately, in the process of dissolving your marriage, you may find that you must protect yourself from becoming victims of the system itself. In fact, the longer people remain in the system, the more it threatens their well-being and that of their dependents.
Even if you get a fair judge that listens, it is unlikely all the issues will be decided in your favor. Rulings may not appear judicial or fair. Although rulings are supposed to follow the law and prior court decisions, often they do not. Like other professions, judges have different attitudes, demeanors, competence, and experience. Judges may come to the bench with personal or political goals. If you are able to move through the divorce process without losing contact with your children and being destroyed financially, mentally, and emotionally, consider it a win.
A map—not a destination planner. Use this book to map out your divorce, the process, and to determine what principles are generally used by the courts to resolve legal issues. It will arm you with information necessary to have greater control and confidence through every step of the process.
This is your divorce, your children, and your assets. Be wise.
Make this your goal—start with understanding the process the court system uses after a petition is filed. Then, after studying both the short and long term costs of a divorce, you may decide to resolve your divorce as much as possible outside of court. Alternatively, you may seek marriage counseling and remain married or separated.
This book is not legal advice and should not be used as a substitute for legal advice from an attorney. It is a practical manual about how to get through a divorce from beginning to end with or without an attorney. Even if you have an attorney, this book, may simplify the legal mumbo jumbo and help you avoid pitfalls that could wipe out monies you had originally earmarked for retirement or your children’s college education.